What did you do and what did they get you for can be wildly different questions and realities.

Unsolicited personal advice: The latter opens more doors of meaningful conversation, the former can slam those doors before you can walk through them.

Amen, brother. This is very true. What you did or didn't do, and what they arrested you for, or prosecuted you for, are often wildly different things.

oh, you were innocent?

Two criminal cases. One was dismissed after 5 years in a windowless room. On the way out of the jail I was arrested with a fake warrant made by the prosecutor and spent another 3 years in a room with a window. I am out now.

You should write a book