Follow-on question: have you had similar success in your relationships and personal life in the last 4 years?
I was a great student stoned, and a decent heads-down coworker. I became a detached boyfriend and family member and even more detached friend. I made my world smaller, so I could "focus" on work. My time on creative/non-passive hobbies fell to zero. I didn't lose friends but I didn't keep up with them.
I genuinely hope your experience has not been so asymmetrical.
I wouldn’t describe my relationship style as detached at all. I was attentive and used some of my time in therapy to work on issues that came up with my partner and try to resolve them. It didn’t work out but I think that’s due to a bad fit. And she smoked a lot of weed (more than I did) so we were aligned there.
My creative passions exploded. Personal design projects (3D printing, circuit board design, robotics, programming) all were off the charts high, as I reduced the number of hours I worked at my regular job to under 30 hours a week. It was the most productive hobby time of my life.
I think it makes a huge difference that I smoked relatively small amounts of pure sativa, and nothing else.
Biggest issue I think was how it affected my sleep. I would stay up late getting stoned and designing robots, going to sleep around 4 or 5am. I’d wake up at 12 or 1. Made it hard to visit my Dad for lunch since he lives a ways away. Now without weed I go to bed at midnight and wake up at 8. I like that! Much easier to make plans with my Dad and my new partner (who is GREAT).
Follow-on question: have you had similar success in your relationships and personal life in the last 4 years?
I was a great student stoned, and a decent heads-down coworker. I became a detached boyfriend and family member and even more detached friend. I made my world smaller, so I could "focus" on work. My time on creative/non-passive hobbies fell to zero. I didn't lose friends but I didn't keep up with them.
I genuinely hope your experience has not been so asymmetrical.