Is this really about "fixing sexism", when she herself notes that the man page was changed 6 years ago? It reads more like attention-seeking (or rather validation-seeking, seeing the response) behavior to me.
>A very common bit of misogyny is saying the second while meaning the first.
Maybe. That sounds more like a motte-and-bailey. It could be misogyny, or it could be something else. Obviously someone looking for misogyny will think the ulterior motive is misogyny, but it could be just about anything.
>So if Vanessa had an objection to some of my writing that struck me as related to gender, I might politely ask her for details, but would see it as my burden to do any deeper work.
Everyone is accommodating, until the complaint is about something you care about. If you give them an inch, they'll take a mile. That's all I'll say.
My bad, I didn't realize we were talking about misogyny%, I thought we were talking about misogyny. In that case, let me clarify something.
Misogyny, being a form of sexism, is a thought, not an action or an effect. Therefore to know if for example something someone said is misogynistic you need to understand why they said it.
This misogyny% you're speaking of is clearly not a thought (otherwise intention would matter), so it's not sexism. If sexism didn't exist there could be still be misogyny%, because it's something that happens irrespective of anyone's intentions. A woman could mishear something someone said and decide not to speak, and that would be misogyny%, I guess. The speaker was misogynistic% when he read aloud the schedule for the cafeteria because he didn't speak clearly enough. It's not clear to me whether eliminating misogyny% is even theoretically possible.
That aside, what's the alternative? Are you saying women shouldn't have stuff they say critically analyzed, let alone opposed? That they should be met with either approval or silence, because otherwise some women might prefer not to speak? Isn't that itself a misogynistic (no percent) and condescending, not to mention dangerous, idea? Think of the political idea you find most reprehensible, put it in the mouth of a female politician who sees nothing but support and take that mental image to its logical conclusion.
People say stupid shit all the time. It's not just important, but critical to challenge wrong ideas. If that means some people will speak less, and some of those people will be women, well, that's life. I guess it's unfortunate those people never learned how to deal with criticism.
>A very common bit of misogyny is saying the second while meaning the first.
Maybe. That sounds more like a motte-and-bailey. It could be misogyny, or it could be something else. Obviously someone looking for misogyny will think the ulterior motive is misogyny, but it could be just about anything.
>So if Vanessa had an objection to some of my writing that struck me as related to gender, I might politely ask her for details, but would see it as my burden to do any deeper work.
Everyone is accommodating, until the complaint is about something you care about. If you give them an inch, they'll take a mile. That's all I'll say.